Well, I purposely went for a shower when she is crying. The idea is for her to learn to fall asleep on her own and there is absolutely nothing for me to do. She is now at Day 20 of her training and there is no limit to how long she cries and I will not pick her up.
From 40 mins of crying, it has been reduced to 30 mins, 25 mins, 15 mins and currently anything between 5 - 10 mins before she can soothe herself to sleep. My mom carried her at the 9th minute for goodness sake.
Anyway, I shouted at my mom and I banged the cupboard. Baby was back in the playpen crying EVEN HARDER this time and EVEN LONGER while me and my mom were outside; in the living room. This is the first time I shouted at my mom in my life. I have never ever reacted in such a way towards her.
I told her "If you are the one taking care of baby at night, I won't bother how you want to carry her, rock her to the sky. But I am the one waking up 7 times last time [and now just once at most and crying for 5 mins and she can soothe herself back to sleep] so please do it my way".
She is really mad at me and she left after saying "I don't understand you." And then cold war with me for 3 days and counting. I sent a message saying sorry that I was rude .... within an hour after she left and also two other smses but till date no reply.
I have never been this sure that I am doing the right thing. Because I did my confinement at her place, I failed at breastfeeding. This time I am determined to do what I want for my child (assertively).
Just so, I happened to meet a mommy downstairs at my void deck. I got to know her in-laws first, who happened to be my neighbour. She has two girls Keston 24 months and Megan 11 months old. She shared with me that she quarrelled with her mom numerous times because of sleep training too. I asked her how long did Keston cry last time. She told me 'An hour plus of crying and struggling'. That time Keston was sleep trained when she was 14 months. Her mom couldn't understand either.
I suppose there are lots of differences in terms of her view and her in-laws and mom's views. That's why even though they both are healthy and strong, she quit her job and choose to be a stay-at-home mom to take care of her two girls herself (with a maid).
There is another grandpa who would bring his 18 months old grandson downstairs. So usually the four children will play together at 4.30 pm (before dinnertime). He told me that his daughter-in-law is quitting his grandson of his pacifier but he cried and cried so badly. So whenever he is at his place, he will secretly give him the pacifier to sleep -_-|| I just kept quiet.
Oh no... grandparents :(
Back to the sleep training - Gracel woke up 4 times at night yelling away for 40-45 minutes. She thought grandma is coming to carry her. Poor baby. I have to re-train all over again.
