Last moments at Mcnair

And G shifted back with us. She still chose us eventually, despite no aircon. The last few moments we spent together at a rented place before we have to shift again. The owner cheated my deposit and I hope God will take care of him.

Anyway, their biological father refused to house us. When I told him that his kids have nowhere to go, we will have to roam around the streets, he replied "that's your problem". So i will cease paying for the tpy flat soon. I am paying and he is staying there for free, enjoying the whole house.

我们一家人(referring to the kids and me) 要弄得四分五裂。太可怜了。

And of course, I am not saying where we will shift next. He will not know.

We will be poor

We will be poor but we will be happier. Hang in there girls!

Happy 3rd Birthday E

Happy Birthday E. This is the first year I bought a birthday cake instead of baking one. I feel so bad that I always didnt seem to put in much effort for E. Furthermore, I am unable to bake this year because we haven't found a place yet and I am forbidden entry into my TPY flat. 

My parents were there with us for the school celebration. E was exceptionally sticky to me when I was in school. She would ask me to carry her, whine and whine when I am not by her side. After school, we went to City Square for steamboat with my parents. 

On that Sunday, we went to the zoo with my best friend, Elin to celebrate for E. It was her second time to the zoo. And Elin gave her a pair of sunglasses and treated us to KFC lunch. We were out from 9.30 am to 8 pm. It was so tiring for me especially because more than half the time, she wants to be carried.

First time drinking Sprite

On the way home

Mommy loves you and is so proud to be your mommy. You always help me in your little ways whenever you can. When you knew that I have fever, you fed me the whole bowl of oats until the last mouthful. Whenever I sweep the floor, you come and offer help. Whenever, I feel down, you came and ask me "mommy, what happen? your face look sad".

When you get upset with me, you hit me, you say nasty things but the next day you say that "we are a family" again. Yes, we are a family, we stay together in good times and in bad. We don't quit on one another.

Thank you so much baby, for being in my life.
You have shown and taught me things that I didn't notice sometimes.

Happy 5th Birthday to G

Let the photos do the talking :)

I was so tired after the party. For 3 consecutive nights, I slept at 9.30 pm together with the kids and wake up at 6 am for work.

Nursing a fever

I have several queries on how I manage the children’s fever without seeing the doctor. In fact, my daughter has only seen the doc once in her 2.5 years even though she is attending childcare (both are). In the last 2 months, both my kids had fever ranging from 38 to 39.8 degrees.  Thankfully under my care, they don’t need to see a doctor. Of course, I am not saying that we will never need to see one. If your motherly instinct tells you that it is more than a normal fever, then by all means, seek medical help. But for me, I don’t jump and run to the doctor at the very instance. This is just my personal sharing on how I manage a fever.

Before I begin, there are some things for your information. I get the helper to brew chrysanthemum tea or barley water or luohan guo tea on a daily basis. And they take ChildlifeDHA and Vitamin C daily as well. Currently, they are also taking a jelly enzyme that I bought from Isetan Singapore. They are eating one strip every alternate day as it is quite costly. 12 boxes for $150. I think there are only 6 or 8 strips in one box. Previously, they had been eating LactoGG (a probiotic brand, available at Unity Pharmacy) but I have stopped it too because it’s too expensive to maintain. I only offer one pill a day if they are sick. My kids chew on the pill and have no issues swallowing.

Btw if you are a first time ordering in iherb, you can use my code SIH921 for discount upon checkout.

 

 

Things that you need on a fever night.

·         Cooling mat for child to lie down on

·         Small towel

·         Some 2 to 3 tablespoon of sea salt

·         Essential oil (peppermint, lavender, lemon)

·         A small pail of tap water

·         Lots of love and patience

·         Belladonna (homeopathy medicine)

·         Diffuse peppermint oil in aircon room

·         Air con temperature 25 – 26 degrees

·         Sleeveless attire

·         No pants, just panties

·         No blanket

You can get the cooling gel mat from Guardians or Unity Pharmacy. I bought mine from Q10. This is not the small fever patch on the forehead. It is for the whole body. See picture.

 

Btw, any brand of essential oil is fine, in my opinion. I don’t necc always and only stick to Young Living or Doterra. I am not a distributor of either.  I think those sold on iherb works okay too.

I have been using homeopathy medicine for many years on my kids. I read up on it, done research and attended workshops on homeopathy by pharmacist. Of course, every child is different and what works for me might not work for you. I am not a doctor, so please use this at your own risk. I did my fair share of homework and studies and as a mom, I decided to offer alternative medicine to them. But that’s just me. I am not saying anyone has to follow. You can get Belladonna from seeing a Homeo doctor. I got mine fr iherb.

Steps:

1. Get child to lie down on cooling gel mat.
2. Drop 2 to 3 drops of lavender oil on the pile of sea salt.
3. Add tap water (add 1 ice cube if you prefer).
4. Mix well and dip your small towel inside.
5. Wring the towel and place it on the child’s forehead, neck, armpit area and groin area. I place it on a 15-20 mins interval and change the locations mentioned.
6. Apply 2 drops of lemon oil on your palm then rub them and smear on your kid’s soles (feet). Massage for 1 minute and then apply 2 drops of lavender oil using the same method. Sometimes, I proceed with a drop of Thieves essential oil. If there is no Thieves, I use Oregano. Do this every hourly for 3 times. I usually start at 9 pm and end off at midnight (so that I can catch some rest).
7. Administer 2-3 pellets of Belladonna (see prescription on bottle) at 9 pm and then another dose at 12 midnight.
8. Fever usually peaks in the middle of the night, between 2 to 4 am. So sleep closely to the child and be aware of any movements or no movements. Is she is shivering? Is she too still? Conscious or unconscious? I check on my child, I touch her forehead and I see if she is just sleeping soundly?
9. I usually offer her water (in water bottle with straw) at night if her fever is too high. If she doesn’t want to sit up and drink, I use a syringe and let it glide into the sides of her mouth. And if I am up at 4 am, I repeat the essential oil application sequence, lemon, lavender, thieves.
10. The diffuser works very hard too. Non-stop diffusing until day light. I use peppermint, but sometimes I use Raven if she is coughing too. Otherwise, I put Myrrh if her cough is phlegmy.

That would be about 1-2 hours of sleep for me and usually within a day or two, I see improvements. For any fever that persists over 3 nights, then I will see a doctor. There is exception too.

There is once Gracel had a fever from school. Teacher said that she is bitten by an insect. That very evening, I took her to the hospital even though her fever is only 38 degrees. Thankfully I did because it was an infection of the blood and any delay would have cost her her life.

That’s why I say, trust your maternal instinct. It is God-given and very important.

May all the children be free from fever and illness.