23 January 2021
16 August 2020
Happy 9th Birthday
We had BBQ at home on one occasion. And another time, I took leave and came home with Auntie Shumei with cheesecake and cupcakes and bubble tea for them.
Happy 9th Birthday to my first-born.
Thank you for leaving me little notes everywhere in the house to remind me that you love me and appreciate my hard work for the family.
04 February 2020
Happy 1st Birthday to Matilda
I made butter cake so that we can eat it as breakfast the next day. We went picnic nearby too. Thank you M for being here with us. I promise to give you my best.
Happy 6th Birthday Elyssa
Happy 6th :)
As per your request, we had a slime party with your classmates. It was a simple day of celebration. Thank you Elyssa for being well contented. You said that your wish was to ride on a unicorn and fly around Singapore.
10 November 2019
M is growing so quickly
M is growing so fast. She is crawling well and starting to cruise already. Each of their temperament are different. M has a mild temperament and she is the easiest among the 3. I am really enjoying her so much and would want to spend more time with her. I am hoping that my request to work part-time will be approved next year.
Happy 8th Birthday G
#throwback
G wanted to bake her own cake instead of us buying one from the shops. Actually, I strive to bake her birthday cake yearly. I couldn't do it (properly) this year because I was rushing some assignments.
The cake sank and so did my heart. But G kept on assuring me that it is fine and she said she really like the cake, to make me feel better.
Simple pleasures at home.
02 May 2019
Confinement and 4 months beyond
My confinement was a disaster. Other than the tingkat confinement food that went well, I didn't sleep much. Sleep can be as little as accumulated 3 hours in 24 hours.
And post confinement now, my left knee is affected, my finger joints are affected, my back is affected too. I even drank mouldy red date tea, had diarhoea and tummy ache and have to take care baby 24/7. I want to believe that Jesus will heal and my health will be restored in future.
Anyway, I missed E's 5 year old birthday celebration because I was in confinement but she was with my mom and sis at some dinner gathering. I can't exactly remember either.
And for reunion dinner, I have only G and M with me at home. G shared with me my confinement meals cos the cny dishes were extra huge. Thankfully G was by my side for reunion dinner to keep me company as I was so emotional. E went to my ex-hubby's place.
After confinement ended, I tried two different companies for family dinner tingkat. The children didn't like it and there was much wastage. I was the only one eating everyday though I ordered 2 adult portions (for 1 adult and 2 children) so I didn't resume tingkat. I only managed to cook once or at most twice a week after M is 4 months old.
Yes, M is 4 months old already. Time flies. She is going into a routine and everything is great, nothing that I cannot handle. I am enjoying her though it's a tiring journey. I also managed to drag my pump to 4 - 4.5 hourly now. Everything will work out fine.
This is our current typical weekday schedule with a 4 month old baby. (the first 3 months were NOTHING near like this. I couldn't plan my time because there isn't a routine yet. And baby is getting used to us and us getting used to the baby in our lives)
5 am - pump
6 am - M wakes
7 am - G ready for school (she walks to school by herself)
8 am - M shower + her 1 hour nap and E ready for school
9 am - Wake M up and send E to school
10 am - pump, light housework
11 am - M for her 2 hour nap (3 hours max)
1 pm - Lunch, grocery shopping (if M is awake, if not I order from redmart)
2 pm - Fetch G from school
3 pm - my rest time / baby tummy time / G homework
4 pm - M nap (usually 1 - 1.5 hours), pump
5 pm - Fetch E from school and buy dinner, while G watches over M
6 pm - Shower for E. Dinner time. E and G playtime
7 pm - Last milk feed for M and I settle her for bedtime
8 pm - G and E ready for bed and laundry (so that their uniforms will be dry the next day)
9 pm - usually all will be asleep, pump
10 pm - Bedtime for me (usually)
1 or 2 am - M wakes for milk, pump
3 am - 5 am - Rest time for me
Light housework means paper the floor with dry wipes, clean the sink, sterilise the milk bottles and laundry. Anything more will have to be done during the weekends.
Pump - one session is 40 minutes
Total accumulated sleep and rest time is about 5-6 hours (max). That is provided children are not sick, not cranky and not demanding.
But my girls are demanding and they want me ALL THE TIME.
Sometimes when I wake up to pump in the living room, G or E will wake to look for me. She wants me to feed her and pat her to sleep on top of the usual bedtime stories. There are a few times she even latch on me. I do allow her as I am now exclusive pumping for M.
But I thank God for my three girls. They are all I've got. They are everything I have. I am thankful that they love M and they will help me with M when I am busy in the kitchen or scrubbing the toilet. They have fed M milk, changed her diaper and also pat her in the yaolan.
And post confinement now, my left knee is affected, my finger joints are affected, my back is affected too. I even drank mouldy red date tea, had diarhoea and tummy ache and have to take care baby 24/7. I want to believe that Jesus will heal and my health will be restored in future.
Anyway, I missed E's 5 year old birthday celebration because I was in confinement but she was with my mom and sis at some dinner gathering. I can't exactly remember either.
And for reunion dinner, I have only G and M with me at home. G shared with me my confinement meals cos the cny dishes were extra huge. Thankfully G was by my side for reunion dinner to keep me company as I was so emotional. E went to my ex-hubby's place.
After confinement ended, I tried two different companies for family dinner tingkat. The children didn't like it and there was much wastage. I was the only one eating everyday though I ordered 2 adult portions (for 1 adult and 2 children) so I didn't resume tingkat. I only managed to cook once or at most twice a week after M is 4 months old.
Yes, M is 4 months old already. Time flies. She is going into a routine and everything is great, nothing that I cannot handle. I am enjoying her though it's a tiring journey. I also managed to drag my pump to 4 - 4.5 hourly now. Everything will work out fine.
This is our current typical weekday schedule with a 4 month old baby. (the first 3 months were NOTHING near like this. I couldn't plan my time because there isn't a routine yet. And baby is getting used to us and us getting used to the baby in our lives)
5 am - pump
6 am - M wakes
7 am - G ready for school (she walks to school by herself)
8 am - M shower + her 1 hour nap and E ready for school
9 am - Wake M up and send E to school
10 am - pump, light housework
11 am - M for her 2 hour nap (3 hours max)
1 pm - Lunch, grocery shopping (if M is awake, if not I order from redmart)
2 pm - Fetch G from school
3 pm - my rest time / baby tummy time / G homework
4 pm - M nap (usually 1 - 1.5 hours), pump
5 pm - Fetch E from school and buy dinner, while G watches over M
6 pm - Shower for E. Dinner time. E and G playtime
7 pm - Last milk feed for M and I settle her for bedtime
8 pm - G and E ready for bed and laundry (so that their uniforms will be dry the next day)
9 pm - usually all will be asleep, pump
10 pm - Bedtime for me (usually)
1 or 2 am - M wakes for milk, pump
3 am - 5 am - Rest time for me
Light housework means paper the floor with dry wipes, clean the sink, sterilise the milk bottles and laundry. Anything more will have to be done during the weekends.
Pump - one session is 40 minutes
Total accumulated sleep and rest time is about 5-6 hours (max). That is provided children are not sick, not cranky and not demanding.
But my girls are demanding and they want me ALL THE TIME.
Sometimes when I wake up to pump in the living room, G or E will wake to look for me. She wants me to feed her and pat her to sleep on top of the usual bedtime stories. There are a few times she even latch on me. I do allow her as I am now exclusive pumping for M.
But I thank God for my three girls. They are all I've got. They are everything I have. I am thankful that they love M and they will help me with M when I am busy in the kitchen or scrubbing the toilet. They have fed M milk, changed her diaper and also pat her in the yaolan.
05 February 2019
04 January 2019
Preparation for D-day
With less than a month to go, I have just :
In unexpected situations, I will have G walk to school daily on her own and have E stay at home with me. My mom has just bought me lots of red dates and some herbs. She said I could just use slow cooker and put everything inside at night and I could drink it the next morning.
Seems like everything is more or less settled. Now, it's more like getting the children familiar with the new routine and getting used to another family member at home. There won't be bedtime stories for them every single night now and it actually saddens them. I have to keep assuring G and E that I love them the same.
E told me a few nights ago that she wants to throw the baby away because she cannot have bedtime stories as often as she wants from now on. And G said that she wants to go and stay with the ex-hubby. Unfortunately, the ex couldn't help. I will be glad if he would stop giving me a hard time now by being so defensive and suspicious all the time.
Next, I would also be reading up and checking more on insurance for the baby and the children.
- ordered my confinement tingkat from Tianwei,
- dinner tingkat for my children,
- stocked up toiletries and basic supplies from iherb and NTUC,
- bought quite alot of UHT milk and cereals for the childrens' breakfast
- got newborn diapers and accessories
- washed all the passed down newborn clothes and accessories
In unexpected situations, I will have G walk to school daily on her own and have E stay at home with me. My mom has just bought me lots of red dates and some herbs. She said I could just use slow cooker and put everything inside at night and I could drink it the next morning.
Seems like everything is more or less settled. Now, it's more like getting the children familiar with the new routine and getting used to another family member at home. There won't be bedtime stories for them every single night now and it actually saddens them. I have to keep assuring G and E that I love them the same.
E told me a few nights ago that she wants to throw the baby away because she cannot have bedtime stories as often as she wants from now on. And G said that she wants to go and stay with the ex-hubby. Unfortunately, the ex couldn't help. I will be glad if he would stop giving me a hard time now by being so defensive and suspicious all the time.
Next, I would also be reading up and checking more on insurance for the baby and the children.
18 November 2018
Awards Day
I won't go into details on what award is this or how she did it. The point is not about the award, not about standing on stage or showing off. It is about the spirit of learning and the joy, the self-motivation behind it, whether award or no award.
What do you believe in?
Dear daughters,
I give you the freedom to pursue what you enjoy doing. If you haven't know what is good for you and what you like doing, then explore and find out and then do it. Sometimes, as we do something in the beginning, we may think we do not like it. But if time and time again, it comes back to you though you didn't look for it, or when it just hit you, you will find meaning and joy in doing. Eventually, when you enjoy what you are doing, then it is purposeful and fulfilling. It won't be just another job. You won't be waiting for only the month-end paycheck.
And I wish for all of you - to find that peace and that passion in doing the things that you love. Because, in that, you will find pleasure and you will be grateful.
For everything that happened in life, you take control. You are the steering wheel of your life. Choices, decisions. Even not making any choices if a decision. On days, it will be stormy, other days, it may be blur. It won't be a clear blue sky all the time.
But mommy is always here for you. And I love you all.
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Do not complain. Do not be grumpy (for too long). Do not be angry. And I have told you before, stay away from such people because they are toxic. The bible says, don't even eat at the same table with them. Run for your life if you meet them.
I give you the freedom to pursue what you enjoy doing. If you haven't know what is good for you and what you like doing, then explore and find out and then do it. Sometimes, as we do something in the beginning, we may think we do not like it. But if time and time again, it comes back to you though you didn't look for it, or when it just hit you, you will find meaning and joy in doing. Eventually, when you enjoy what you are doing, then it is purposeful and fulfilling. It won't be just another job. You won't be waiting for only the month-end paycheck.
And I wish for all of you - to find that peace and that passion in doing the things that you love. Because, in that, you will find pleasure and you will be grateful.
For everything that happened in life, you take control. You are the steering wheel of your life. Choices, decisions. Even not making any choices if a decision. On days, it will be stormy, other days, it may be blur. It won't be a clear blue sky all the time.
But mommy is always here for you. And I love you all.
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Do not complain. Do not be grumpy (for too long). Do not be angry. And I have told you before, stay away from such people because they are toxic. The bible says, don't even eat at the same table with them. Run for your life if you meet them.
15 October 2018
HFMD
E has contracted HFMD from her childcare. For two days, she stayed with my mom. Then because my mom had to go overseas, she came back. My, she was super cranky, moody, throwing tantrums cos she was constantly in pain.
Nothing too prominent about the spots on her palms and feet. Just some red patches. I suppose the pain was mainly from her throat and mouth area.
She couldn't swallow her saliva and was drooling frequently. She also refused to open her mouth to show me her ulcers. Then, she did not drink or eat anything for 2 days and was running a temperature. We decided to ward her at KKH in order for her to be put on drip.
Nothing too prominent about the spots on her palms and feet. Just some red patches. I suppose the pain was mainly from her throat and mouth area.
She couldn't swallow her saliva and was drooling frequently. She also refused to open her mouth to show me her ulcers. Then, she did not drink or eat anything for 2 days and was running a temperature. We decided to ward her at KKH in order for her to be put on drip.
She was there for 5 days.
The first thing she wanted to eat was Koko Krunch.
Then we went back home and it was a massive cleaning task. We changed the bedsheets, sofa sheet, sweep and mop the floor, sanitize the toys and furnitures, locked away most of her toys and only allowed some storybooks, dolls and drawing tools.
On top of that, I also brewed barley and chrysanthemum tea every other day, daily temperature and health check and two hourly sanitizing their hands.
18 August 2018
11 May 2018
Happy Mother's Day 2018
Thank you children for the notes, drawings, purple rose and also all your love and attention and praises. I love you and I am very honoured to be your mommy.
13 April 2018
Finding natural materials together
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| image from google |
Very often, I get curious looks from strangers wondering why I am picking up "rubbish" and allowing my children to "mess around". Many times, even relatives are unable to understand the things that I do, the things I believe in.
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| E took this photo |
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| E took this photo and said she is the mama snail |
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| E insisted we take a photo together |
And just how I appreciate my children being aware of their surroundings and caring for the details along the way to school. Counting how many steps before we reach the school entrance and telling me that she spotted a mama snail, the baby snails sleeping and where they are heading to.
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